It is an increasing problem that folks join and support causes without first informing themselves in-depth what it’s really about. It’s endemic in our society. I’ve largely stepped back from Facebook, for example, because it turned out that people merely give one’s posts a split-second glance and hit ‘like’. This leads to some interesting erroneous assumptions. Recently, half my family thought I was moving after I posted a poorly written ad for a house with “5 baths, 1 bed” (?!?).......2 hours out of town. Clearly they didn’t read past the first line. Good thing they didn’t try to visit or it would have been a long ride into the sticks for nothing! :;) :D
Might as well stick to the illusion of having a social life by clicking on the same shallow memes for 30 minutes a day. ;=}>
Hey, it’s something...in its own way.
I hate to tell you, since obviously you miss your family and it’s hard to be away from them so long, but you have it good. You have family who clearly love you and people to spend time with.
My relatives are in Europe and I largely don’t know them. I was raised with no friends, school or neighbors in an abusive family 90 minutes from the nearest town from age 9 to adulthood and then lost my university friends due to the isolation of repeated abusive relationships. When I turned 50 this January, there was no one except my father and my kids who would give two figs about what was happening in my life. That’s “alone” at a whole different level.
Yet tonight, I’m attending the first family Thanksgiving celebration of my life, with around 20 people who are from a side of the family I knew nothing about...and live close enough to potentially visit. I joined a theatre group and am contemplating an online yoga class as a way of treating old (spousally induced) injuries that affect my ability to speak and walk, while also making some friends. People reach out more in isolation, and I for one am willing to reach back and make that connection.
After covid, I’m adding a couples dance class to that list. It’s too early for martial arts - some physio will be required first - but that’s a very motivating goal.
My point is, look back only to understand how you got here. Look forward for places to go and things to do. This isn’t so bad and we’ll all get through it... and quite possibly learn something worthwhile along the way. You never know what’s around the corner, or what you can build from it.
It is an increasing problem that folks join and support causes without first informing themselves in-depth what it’s really about. It’s endemic in our society. I’ve largely stepped back from Facebook, for example, because it turned out that people merely give one’s posts a split-second glance and hit ‘like’. This leads to some interesting erroneous assumptions. Recently, half my family thought I was moving after I posted a poorly written ad for a house with “5 baths, 1 bed” (?!?).......2 hours out of town. Clearly they didn’t read past the first line. Good thing they didn’t try to visit or it would have been a long ride into the sticks for nothing! :;) :D
Might as well stick to the illusion of having a social life by clicking on the same shallow memes for 30 minutes a day. ;=}>
Hey, it’s something...in its own way.
I hate to tell you, since obviously you miss your family and it’s hard to be away from them so long, but you have it good. You have family who clearly love you and people to spend time with.
My relatives are in Europe and I largely don’t know them. I was raised with no friends, school or neighbors in an abusive family 90 minutes from the nearest town from age 9 to adulthood and then lost my university friends due to the isolation of repeated abusive relationships. When I turned 50 this January, there was no one except my father and my kids who would give two figs about what was happening in my life. That’s “alone” at a whole different level.
Yet tonight, I’m attending the first family Thanksgiving celebration of my life, with around 20 people who are from a side of the family I knew nothing about...and live close enough to potentially visit. I joined a theatre group and am contemplating an online yoga class as a way of treating old (spousally induced) injuries that affect my ability to speak and walk, while also making some friends. People reach out more in isolation, and I for one am willing to reach back and make that connection.
After covid, I’m adding a couples dance class to that list. It’s too early for martial arts - some physio will be required first - but that’s a very motivating goal.
My point is, look back only to understand how you got here. Look forward for places to go and things to do. This isn’t so bad and we’ll all get through it... and quite possibly learn something worthwhile along the way. You never know what’s around the corner, or what you can build from it.